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Biracial Hair Care Tips & Guide GEMS NATURAL HAIR CARE Share this page with a friend Are you having trouble taking care of your biracial hair?  Are you a mother who is frustrated by trying to take care of your little girl's biracial hair?  If so, this guide is for you.  I wrote this guide based on my extensive experience with African-American and biracial hair care.  The guide will give you techniques for making your hair or your child's hair look as amazing as nature intended it to be.  After reading the guide you will have more confidence in your ability to care for biracial hair. We've been in business since 2002. These tips you are about to read address some of the questions we get most frequently from clients.  They have been selected based on thousands of questions over the years.  The tips will give you enough information to develop your own unique hair care regimen.  We'll start off with a short introduction and then we'll go into a series of questions and answers.  If you want to immediately reach a particular section, click on the links below to be whisked right to that section. Introduction to Biracial Hair Care What should I expect from biracial hair? What tools will I need to take care of biracial hair? How do I comb kinkly or coily or curly hair?  How often should I wash biracial hair?  How do I wash biracial hair?  How about drying biracial hair? How do I condition biracial hair? How do I go about deep conditioning biracial hair? How should I moisturize my biracial hair? How often should I moisturize it? What about oil?  Some people say I should use it.  Some say I shouldn't.  What do I do? What are some biracial hair styles? I love my natural ringlets.  How do I keep my biracial hair looking wet? How do I control this frizzy, curly hair? Should I straighten my biracial hair with a perm or relaxer? Ponytail tips What do I do with my hair while I sleep? I've heard I should trim my ends.  Should I?  Why? What about hair growth supplements?
Summary We often receive emails from mothers who have adopted African-American or biracial children.  We also hear from White mothers who have biracial children and are having their first experience with kinky/curly/frizzy hair.  We know that for many of you this is a pretty confusing time and you want to know exactlywhat to do.  I'd like to be able to cookbook style guide that would tell  you exactly what products to apply on which days.  Unfortunately, that's not really possible.  Every person's hair is slightly different and will have different needs.  Genetics plays a major role.  But, other factors like environment and your personal activity will make a difference in how often your hair needs to be moisturized or washed.  Proper hair maintenance is more of an art than it is a science.  It's something you're going to have to famliarize yourself with and adjust as you go along. While I can't tell you exactly what to do, I can give you some very good guildelines that will help you begin to work out your own routine.  I've been working on my older daughter's hair for 14 years now and on my own much longer than that.  I am continually adjusting what I do.   As you are working through this, keep in mind that every single person has hair that is just a little bit different.  Because of those differences, it should be treated differently.  I have two daughters born three years apart to the same father and mother.  But, they have different hair types and I don't treat their hair exactly the same.  While my own children are not biracial, I do have nine biracial nieces and nephews and have consulted with many biracial clients.  Figuring out how to deal with biracial hair can actually be more difficult than learning to maintain African hair.  Most African-Americans are multi-ethnic even though we refer to ourselves as Black.  However, most of us have hair that is more similar than a person who we choose to call biracial.  Occasionally, we'll get an email or a phone call from a Caucasian mother disappointed that her daughter's hair turned out more like the father's than like hers.  And, we've gotten a few call from men asking us to explain to their wives how their daughters' hair is different from hers.  When two people with very dissimilar hair have a child, there is no way to determine how that child's hair will turn out.  Again, brothers and sisters in the same family might have completely different hair types.  Expectations for Biracial Hair We think more important than any "to do" tip we can give you, is conveying to you how important it is to have reasonable expectations about your biracial hair or your daughter's biracial hair.  Over the years we've been consulting with people on their hair and just in our day-to-day lives, we've come to realize that almost no one is happy with their hair.  People with thin hair want thick hair.  People with thick hair want thin hair.  People with curly hair want it straight and vice versa.  Many Black people want "good hair".  And on and on it goes.   By far the biggest complaint we get about Black hair is that it appears to be dry or that it lacks shine.  We hear the same thing about biracial hair.  Right after that is people being unhappy with the "frizzyness" of their hair.   We believe this is based on the societal standard that we've been taught that healthy hair is shiny and smooth.  That isn't necessarily so.  For decades, we African-Americans have been putting pomades and "grease" on our hair to give it a sheen it simply doesn't normally have.  There's really nothing wrong with that, to a point.  We'd like to suggest before you do too much to try to make your hair shine, you have the right perspective on just how shiny it should be.   Natural Black or African hair will not be as shiny as permed hair or Caucasian hair.  That is the physics of how light is reflected off of the hair. A major part of what makes hair shiny is the structure of the hair.  How muc light your hair will reflect is not determined simply by the amount of oil or moisture it contains.  The outer structure of the hair is called the cuticles, which are like scales on a fish.  If the cuticles lay flat (smooth hair), the hair will reflect light (therefore it will appear shiny). If the cuticles are raised, the hair will absorb light (therefore it will appear more dull).   African-American hair, because of the structure of the cuticles and the twistiness of the hair shaft will tend to have raised cuticles and will not reflect light as well.  This doesn't apply to permed or relaxed hair which will appear shinier.   If you slather on the grease to try to make your natural African-American (or biracial) hair shine, you could end up harming the health of your hair and scalp.   As I said, the number two complaint about b